Are you a natural INTROVERT?
However, in today's modern, mainstream, mass-media-influenced culture, there is a tendency to put high value on the personality trait of Extroversion!
For example, the more sociable you are, the more friends you have, the more you get out and about, the more you're 'seen'... perhaps at those "cool" or "in" places... the more (supposedly) likeable and popular you are!
Being LIKED can be a form of validation (and perhaps a cover-up for the insecurity of 'being unlovable'), for those who are
'popular' and therefore, it is commonplace for many of us to put-on an extroverted 'hat' when really, our true nature is more skewed toward introversion.
I'll tell you a little bit about my own experience with this...
For years, especially in those teenage & early 20's days, I tried SO HARD to be an Extrovert!..
Trying to fit in...
Trying to belong...
Trying to be someone I was not...
Trying to be COOL!
Can you relate to this?
In order be "cool", there were certain aspects of my personality that came to the fore, whilst others, that weren't so cool, were pushed down.
In high school...
I wore what everyone else who was "cool" was wearing.
I acted like the "cool" kids were acting. That meant being loud (to be seen), sometimes obnoxious, sometimes acting dumb (much dumber than I actually am!), and in some instances, befriending those who were "cool" even if I didn't connect with them naturally.
Later in my 20's...
I smoked cigarettes, I smoked weed, I drank to get drunk.
I listened to the "coolest" music whether it be R&B, Funk, or Techno...
I went to the "coolest" clubs, dance parties or festivals...
Dated the "coolest" guys...
I tried my best to be "cool," to fit in, to belong, when in reality, I mostly felt lonely, lost and out of place...
Because in actual REALITY, I'm really not "cool" at all. I'm actually the opposite of "cool."
And looking back now on when I used to do this "cool" thing, I think...
"How bloody exhausting!..."
This trying SO hard to be someone I'm not...
Trying to fit the mould of a particular social expectation (whether that came from peers, the media and society at large)...
"What a waste of time & energy!"
In REALITY, I was actually really BAD at being cool anyway! A bit of a try-hard... Lol...
In REALITY, being such a highly Sensitive Soul, these cool things actually made me SICK!...
The smoking messed with my delicate lungs, I'd throw-up half the time I drank, I got completely paranoid from weed. I couldn't sleep after nightclubbing... my whole body would be pulsating from music vibrations, my ears ringing and I'm sure I absorbed some pretty heavy energies into my highly Sensitive energy space!
In REALITY, what I LOVE to do is actually the exact opposite of what I was doing when trying to be "cool."
I LOVE being at home, playing with my gorgeous cat.
I LOVE exploring on my own and getting absorbed in nature.
I LOVE getting lost in my head, letting my imagination go wild.
I LOVE losing myself in a novel that takes me on adventures into the unknown.
I LOVE making collages & Visions Boards for hours on end.
I LOVE having intimate, deep conversations with just one other person (no big crowds thanks!).
I still love R&B and techno but preferring the chilled variety these days... ;-)
I only found what I LOVE when I reconnected with who I REALLY was during the last 6 years of Self-Discovery.
And now I can happily say that "I'm an INTROVERT and "PROUD of it!"
And when Australia Day hit yesterday... All I wanted to do was stay at home and write this blog to you guys... hehe xx
So if you connect with my story and would like to gain a deeper connection with yourself and who you REALLY are as a Gifted Sensitive Soul, then I'd love to work with you!
Stay tuned for my online program 'Embracing your Sensitive Super-powers!' coming soon!
Writer. Empowerment Mentor. Spiritual Guide for Sensitive Souls.
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