So I was chatting to a friend last night, a fellow HSP/Sensitive Soul over the phone. It was a long chat with lots of depth and due to diving deep, many insights arose to the surface and were revealed.
One of those insights was this. And something I've been practicing for some time now, but not been consciously aware that I was doing so. And I'll admit, a great thing to do being the deep-feeling/thinking, HSP/Empath, INFP that I am (phew!).
And what is this thing?
Well it's one of the ways in which I manage the deep complexities of my inner-being, in this world, and in my relationships with others.
You see, us sensitive souls are a minority in the population (HSP's are 20% and coupling that with being an Empath may be even less!), so it's very likely that many others out there in the world, will not get you, or understand you and the depth of being that is associated with this disposition.
About 3 years back, I thought that my nearest and dearest (eg. partner, close friends and family) should know everything about me, and that I could share EVERYTHING with them. Simply because we are close, and they 'should' know me, and understand me.
However, over the following 3 years, I learned some important and valuable lessons which now sees me putting boundaries around my sensitivity and depth, only sharing what I feel the other person can actually understand and when it comes down to it, what they can handle!
You see, us sensitive souls are deep and complex beings, with an almost constant whirlwind of thoughts, feelings, emotions, imaginations etc. going on, within our internal world.
The scope of who we are, on an energetic level is BIG! And often INTENSE! And what we have to share with others and the world is often BIG! And yes, again, INTENSE (and so awesome I may add!).
With this big energetic field of ours, I feel there comes a certain responsibility in managing it, especially regarding what we share of our inner world, and with whom we share it with.
Let's Protect our Sensitive Treasures
I remember about 4 years back, I had a good friend whom I liked to share EVERYTHING with! The issue was, she didn't like me sharing EVERYTHING with her! In fact, it was too much info. for her, and I remember her telling me that I needed to journal or write - create an avenue for sharing this info. as an outlet for all this energy and insight that was swirling around in my being.
At the time, I took offence to her statement, wondering why she didn't want to hear all the deep and juicy details of my exciting and exhilarating inner-world.
However, when I look back at this memory, I now realise just how significant it was, and how right she was, being that I learned the following 3 very important lessons from it:
...and if what you have to express, can actually help the world whilst you're doing so, even better - in fact, as in my case, it may actually be your purpose on this planet!!
As a result of the lessons learned above, I now only choose to share about 50% of my inner-world with others, and that's the maximum! My inner-guidance system usually tells me whom I can/cannot open up to, and what they are ready for/can handle. You can also gauge this by opening up to a person bit by bit, rather than all at once - which could cause an avalanche! Aaah!
And the funny thing is, who I reveal the most to is you! Yes you, being those who read my Facebook posts, blogs and newsletters! This is because these online avenues are my outlet. I let my deep thoughts and feelings out using these avenues of self-expression, and since doing so, believe you me, I've never been happier and felt more free!
Note: And I will add, I deeply value sharing with you, my sensitive soul tribe, who understand, relate to, and value my depth, my gifts, and the insights I have to share. Bless xxx
So yes, putting boundaries around our sensitivity in this way, can ensure that both we and others are protected and respected, and if we feel the need to let our depth, energies, insights and gifts out, why not find that healthy avenue where you can do so. And as said above, if it can help the world, and actually be your purpose to express these beautiful sensitive gifts you've been given, then how amazing is that!
Much love and blessings,
Writer. Empowerment Mentor. Spiritual Guide for Sensitive Souls.
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